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This blog is about unspoken motherhood. A lot of thoughts that come to my mind I cannot voice. They are considered private, unpopular, not necessary and controversial. But I can’t be alone with them.

I decided to create this space for us to share, vocalize and discuss thoughts that seem to come up in our minds, but have no place fall. However, if these thoughts come from somewhere, they must have a place to escape. So let it be here…

Let me begin…

How much do we criticize?

Our kids are not perfect, we see it and we voice it. Meanwhile, we are supposed to be the only people in their lives who would love them unconditionally, who they can turn to when the rest of the world is cruel and unfair.

Where is that fine line? How much criticism can I give to my teenage girls? They often wear clothes that does look too good, hair can be untidy, they waste their days in bed, eat junk and then cover themselves on the beach to hide a couple of pounds found in those chipotle bowls.

I hurt them when I criticize. I see it and I am often sorry for that. But what alternative do we have? Be quiet? Lead by example? Pretend I do not see and let them be?

I only started struggling with this question after my girls hit their teenage years. I criticized before and they listened. Now they found a voice and they tell me to stop. Is it my turn to listen to them…is it time to stop?